Living in denial

I heard some interesting gossip the other day. It was from my sister, who told me about a certain acquaintance we both knew who had gone to work in Japan a few years ago and who recently came back (due to the earthquake). However, it seems that while in Japan this person had engaged in some out-of-wedlock frolicking and when she came back she came back with a baby. The most interesting part, at least to me, is that this person is a devout Christian.

While hearing about this I was suddenly reminded of Bristol Palin, who also had a child out of wedlock and was also from a highly conservative Christian household, and I remember commenting about how these kinds of things always seem to happen to the most devout Christians. It just seemed odd to me that those people who are the most vocal about abstinence and having no sex before marriage frequently end up breaking their own rules. Of course secular teens also engage in pre-marital sex but at least they’re honest about it.

This then reminded me to those studies of homosexual arousal, which showed that those people who are most homophobic also tended to be the most homosexual. It seems clear to me that those Christians who rant and rave about social issues day in and day out are actually just living in denial. They’re fighting against their own inner urges, denying who they really are, yet unable to suppress it. I guess it’s sort of understandable from a psychological point of view (we all have our little insecurities and try to deal with them in various ways), but those single Christian moms should know that denial never works. Being a spokesperson for abstinence might make one feel better about their own personal failures, but it would be a lot better if they put their efforts into programs that actually worked.

The thing is, if I was still a committed Christian I would most likely have condemned that acquaintance for not keeping her marriage vows. However, as a secularist, passing judgment is the last thing on my mind. Instead, I want to congratulate her on entering motherhood and try to help her raise her baby in the best possible way (and I will do so when/if her family decides to make this knowledge public). I find it’s far easier to understand your fellow human being when there’s no god in the way.